Narcissistic Personality Disorder Vs. Empathetic People

Today I'll write about the Narcissictic Personality Disorder, and how this behavior is usually harmful when dealing with empathetic people, especially in a love relationship.
I choose this topic, because the most of the ''funas'' I have read, I can recognize this type of personality.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that is vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
An empathetic person, conversely, is very capable of understanding the other's feelings , which is generally attractive to narcissists, since an empathetic person will always try to understand and accept their behaviors. However, a love relationship between these two types of person can be very harmful, since with the passage of time, the empathic person tries to be accepted and loved by the narcissist one , but he only needs his self-love and doesn't  matter what the other may need, therefore the relationship ends in manipulation and constant guilt towards the empathic person.
It is important to know how to recognize these characteristics on time, since the longer they get involved, the bigger the vicious circle of suffering will be.
Personally, I think emotional education is very needed, especially for teenagers to learn about mental health, self-care, and when to ask for help.

Postgraduate studies

In today's post, I'll write about the postgraduate courses that I'd like to study, these are Art Therapy, with mention in Music Therapy  at Universidad de Chile, because I consider that I need art in my life, and I don't want that my days to be based on applying my knowledge of psychology to help people heal their conflicts, but also I would like to be able to teach people that they can get beautiful things out of pain.



 In the other hand, I would like to take a course called ''Neuropsicología cognitiva: Intervención en niños y adolescentes con trastornos específicos del desarrollo'', because I'm interested in the studies of developmental disorders, like Selective Mutism, because they are very little known, which doesn't allow to carry out suitable  treatments for children and teenagers, at least here in Chile. I grew up with this disorder, and I could never be properly treated, which generated me social anxiety in my adulthood today.

I'd take this courses in a part- time way, because I need to work and become independent.

My Future Job : Therapist

I don't know certainly what kind of job I'd like to have, but in advance I wanted to study psychology because I wanted to create a foundation  and do studies about Selective Mutism, an anxiety disorder in which a person normally capable of speech cannot speak in specific situations or to specific people if triggered.  I was diagnosed with this disorder when I was a child, however, I was never able to carry out a treatment, because in Chile it is very little known, and I would like that future generations in my country have access to a correct therapy.
Lately I've been rethinking this, because I think that I'm a very artistic person, I need to make art, music and writing freely, I don't like it when everything is too theoretical, so I've been thinking in resume my studies on music, taking the postgraduate course in Music Therapy when I finish my Psychology degree. I think this would allow me to live well if I am resourceful enough to found a center that combines art with mental well-being.
Maybe I could emigrate to Europe, where I have more possibilities to carry out music therapy, since in Chile I don't see much of a future.
Regarding salary, I know that I won't be a millionaire, but I don't care about money, I'm only interested in being able to earn enough to live better than I currently do.

Women Power

The coven members, including my grandmother and nieces

Hello Everyone, today I'm gonna write about women's power, because my entire life I've been surrounded by women only. I don't have any brothers, and my father moved to Belgium when I was 3 years old, so I grew up with amazing women that I want to talk about now. Also I should say that I went to a girls primary school for 8 years.
My mother, Lidia, is currently 56 years old, she has daughters, Karen, Romina, Natalia, Yorza and Rocío. She has had 4 partners in total, therefore not all of us have the same father. I remember that a teacher (male) from my school, where all of us studied, used to annoy me about this, saying that my mother was a "slut". I was just a girl, I didn't have the knowledge that I have now, but I still knew there was something wrong with this. After I growed up a little bit, I realized that what was causing me the most anger was his sexism,  because 1) he didn't have the right to talk about my mother's sex life , and 2) He didn't even know my mother's story.
She was 18 years old when she got married for the first time, mainly because she wanted to leave her house, where she was the older sister and had to take care of her 3 siblings and dad, because my grandmother had fled and my mother was left as the woman of the house.
She was 22 years old, and she had two babies who were 1 and 2 years old, when she got widowed. Since her husband died after being in a coma for several months, after being electrocuted at work. She carried on her own, luckily she had a house, she worked knitting and sewing every night, and taking care of my sisters during the day.
Five years later she remarried after meeting a man at her job, who was a Jehovah's Witness, so she was again subjected to sexist stigma. From this marriage my sister Natalia was born, and everything went well until my mother divorced that man when she discovered that he had another woman.
Ten years later I was born, because my father, who was my mom's new partner, wanted to have a child of his own, however, as I already mentioned, he left after 3 years. My younger sister was born after this, from a fleeting romance that my mother had.
As you can probably by now, she had bad luck in love, but she has always managed to raise us on her own, and she has always had to listen to many sexist comments that condemned her.
However, she bought her house on her own, and she had been paying for it for years and years. My two older sisters are currently professionals,and they had to study and work at the same time to afford university. I can say that all of my sisters have excellent values, because they witness the effort and strength of my mother, we love her and the we admire her power!

Free topic: An artist I really love

Today I'm gonna talk about an artist that I like so much, for their ability to express emotions in words, with her voice, and videoclips.
First of all, I must highlight my admiration for Bjork, she's an icelandic singer, songwriter, record producer, actress, and DJ. I like this artist because she's very intense, both musically and audiovisual.
Listening to her music, I feel that it is like traveling to another universe; her vocal capacity, the musical composition, which is really beautiful, and his lyrics that most of the time deal with deep themes, and also just like watching her videos, which are very eccentric and psychedelics. My favorite song of her is called ''Jóga'', I like the melody, because is very melancholic, and her lyrics ''State of emergency, how beautiful to be, state of emergency, is where I want to be.'' , I think it's beautiful.

''Loss''- Bjork video

     

She's also an actress, who acted in the film ''Dancer in the Dark'',  premiered at the 2000 Cannes Film Festival and was awarded the Palme d'Or, along with the Best Actress award for Björk. The song "I've Seen It All" was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Original Song, at the performance of which Björk wore her famous swan dress.

The best concert I have had

This concert was in december 19th, 2019, at Matucana 100. I saw Diego Lorenzini, a chilean indie/folk music songwriter  , he's also known for having composed the soundtrack for the webserie "Tiempos Mozos". The concert lasted two and a half hours, and it was special mostly because of its simplicity, he was alone with a guitar and an ukelele, and he invited a couple of artists who joined him on some songs.

On his stage, he had several cushions around him, where people were sitting, which made the show more dynamic . On the other hand, it is worth noting his interaction with the public, there was a lot of dialogue and laughter, and  there were also songs in which he made mistakes, and he started again like it was nothing. I felt really very happy and euphoric at that concert.

I remember that on that day my cat's kittens had also been born, whom I had adopted two weeks ago, because I rescued her from being chased by dogs on the street, she was very thin and dirty, and the kittens were a surprise I didn't expected!

A country I would like to visit: France

Since I was a child, I always wanted to visit this country, because I like its culture, its language, history, architecture, its essence in general. I also consider that it is closely linked to Chile after the Military Coup.

I think that my first approaches to this culture was when I read in sixth grade ''Le Petit Prince'', a book that has been translated into three hundred and twenty-one languages currently, which can give an idea of the magnitude of its relevance in French culture. At present, I'm studying french language, and my teacher is careful in our correct pronunciation of "Le Petit Prince", since according to what she says, it is almost an obligation, it is a general culture in French society.

All I know of this country, is related to art, music or literature, for example, I really like Cortázar's stories, and he lived many years there; on the other hand, it should be noted that France is the country that has received the most Nobel Prizes for Literature.
I don't know clearly what I would like to do in this country, but I'm studying its language because I'd like to take a semester of Psychology at a university there, rather than visit it as an attraction, because living a longer period, you can appreciate more how this society works. And if it is not possible for me to carry out a student exchange, I would like to go study music there.

Last year i wrote a illustrated story, inspired in the testimony of Héctor Herrera, the man who founded Victor's Jara body. He had to go into exile in France, and lives there to this day, but he came from there for the opening day of the work in the Memory Museum, so I was able to meet him and talk to him, there is a lot of history about exile there, and it is another reason why I want to visit France.